Why do so many nice boys turn into such tough men?Journalist and author of the acclaimed Your Body, Your Baby, Your Life and Until They Are Five, Angela Phillips takes a challenging and highly original look at the socialization of boys - the process that is creating the men of the future.Phillips argues that there are differences between girls and boys - whether due to nature or nurture - that we are failing to address. Feminism has made huge strides toward helping girls and women take pride in being female, but its cause will not be helped by breeding boys who are ashamed to be male. We may be headed for a future in which men are the rogue elephants of society, roving around the family unit and allowed access only for the process of mating. The prospect is a bleak one and holds out little promise either for men or for society.This impassioned and insightful book draws widely on recent research into parenting, as well as the author's own experiences as a feminist and mother of a son, to suggest ways to revise the meaning of masculinity without undermining maleness itself. Phillips looks at the real effects of mothering and fathering on sons, and listens to the voices of ordinary women and men - and boys - as they talk about the trials, tribulations, and occasional successes of trying to bring gentle boys into a macho world. Read Less